The Virgo Man
The Virgo Man
There are three types of Virgo men; 1. Ones that are perfectionists with keeping their surroundings immaculate 2. Ones that are perfectionists on their personal appearance 3. Ones that are perfectionists about both. The one I am talking about above is without a doubt #2. You will never see him dressed sloppy or have a hair out of place, but his room usually looks like a tornado hit it. One thing they all are is talkers. A Virgo is a mutable earth sign which makes them incredibly talkative and excellent at communicating.
This man was born with an instinct to work, and work hard. They will usually be the last ones leaving the office, either because they were talking too much or because they get so focused on something that they lose track of time. They love having a duty and being disciplined. They also have a devotion to help people that are less fortunate than themselves. They were the one on the playground sticking up for the kid who was getting bullied. If the Virgo you know isn’t fully developed into his ultimately perfect self, you will see him feeling guilty. All Virgos have an idea of the “perfect them”. They are perfectionists by nature. They are very hard and critical on themselves just like they are on everything around them, whether they express it outwardly or not.
These men are not ones for over the top ooshy gooshy mushy love. It scares them straight out of their comfort zone. Don’t worry though, if you do it right, this man can be melted at the right temperature. There are ways to this man’s heart if done properly. Being aggressive with this man will never work. Virgo men seek quality over quantity when it comes to finding a partner. Because this is a rare thing to find and because his perfectionist standards are so high, a lot of his relationships will end sadly. When a Virgo is sad they will bury themselves in work or working out; anything to get themselves to their perfect idea of themselves. If they got out of a relationship they will be extremely cautious and picky in the next one, so have tact and patience with this man. These men are the bachelors of the zodiac. There are more Virgo men that are single than any other sign, not because they want to be but because they never feel a need to be.
This man is sharply intellectual and made of solid earth. He can detach himself enough to be quite the flirt, but because of his nature his flirtations rarely leave being platonic. When he meets the right girl though, you will know. Virgos, as I mentioned in a previous post, when in love create a white hot heat that you can absolutely feel. Their love is pure and vivacious. There is something innocent and sweet in the way they love, almost playful. Consider yourself lucky if you have this from a Virgo man, because most of their interests are aloof. He is as picky as choosing a woman as picky as he is about what he’s going to eat, how he does his hair, and his work habits. You could definitely consider this man to be indecisive. The Virgo man I know will change his order at a restaurant so many times you want to crawl under the table and die. He isn’t trying to be a pain in the ass, he does it because he wants to make sure what he chooses is perfect. He wants a civilized, truthful, and genuine relationship which he knows is hard to find. Sometimes he is frustrating to be with because he can go for a very long time without feeling a need to permanently be with you. It’s enough to make you pull your hair out if you are in love with this man. The key to being with him is a lot patience. Something, being a Scorpio, I wish I had more of.
They say that a Virgo man’s love is like a steady flame. It rarely fluctuates unlike most Sun Signs. One very romantic trait about these men is that when they are genuinely in love and have chosen you, they may wait years later to claim you. He is a lot like prince charming trying to find Cinderella to fit the glass slipper. There really is only one right woman for him which explains why they are so particular as well as why most of them are still single. He is extremely good when emotional hardships come into play. He won’t shower you with expensive gifts, but his consideration and support is worth more than any man made object money can buy.
This man knows how to play it cool under extremely stressful situations. Virgos can put on one hell of a poker face. They can pretend that something shocking and innapropriate is of total disinterest to them. He is not a jealous or possesive man by any means. He will give you all the freedom in the world, but don’t take a mile when you are given an inch with this man. If he feels as though you are disloyal or promiscuous in any way, he will cut you from his life so accutely you will feel as though you never existed. He is loyal to a fault. He hates cutting family ties for any reason because of this trait. Self-discipline is engrained in his nature so if he does decide to cut ties with you it will truly be for good. He won’t make a scene of it, it will just be over and he will not change his mind.
If you are in love with a Virgo man you better put your thinking cap on. They have no patience for sloppy, ignorant, or stupid people. The way this Virgo man fell in love with me was when I told him my favorite book was Henry David Thoreau’s Walden and Civil Disobedience. That may not sound very romantic to most, but that was what did it for him. Dress neat and have a tamed hairstyle. They aren’t crazy for neon and crimped quaffs. She could be the sexiest woman in the world, but if she is a pleasure-seeking lazy broad, she won’t make the cut. He’s looking for a wife, not a hook up.
Generally these men, like Virgo women, don’t have a strong need for family life. They tend to have smaller families beacause they don’t find emotional fulfillment through it. If and when he does have a family, he will love helping with homework and will put strong emphasis on education. They won’t spoil their children with toys, but to hell or high water will make it to every soccer game they ever play. They will get plenty of cool and controlled discipline from him, but they will look up to him in every aspect. He must remember though to not be too critical on his young ones.
This man is reliable and pleasnt. He will have funny habits and quirks that all Virgos have that make you adore him even more; such as playing with rubber bands in his hands all day, or make you watch YouTube clips until you wish YouTube didn’t exist anymore. He is not an angel by any means, but if this man is yours you will have a lot of women who are jealous that this incredible man loves you. Afterall, how many women have smart boyfriends who dress well, are not making passes at other women, prefer to be home, and are extremely considerate? There is an aura about this man that afterall is angelic. When you are looking into his clear eyes you may even start to see a halo form over his perfeclty combed hair.
That was awesome. Great insight. Dating a virgo man now for 6 months. It's moving slowly but steady. I just adore him. Thanks for writing this. It has put some of my confusion at rest.
I loved everything about this article. You described my Virgo perfectly and I too am a Scorpio. Over it like I wrote this myself. I’ve been with a few Virgos and was married to one so I’ve been well groomed lol!!! I’m looking forward to what the future brings with my Virgo, my calm, cool and collected gentleman!!
Ditto! Been dating one for 3 months, will be now attempting an LDR due to a promtion….patience and time and communication is key here. Im a leo lady
I met my virgo guy this month what could I say he is my soul mate !
He is a virgo guy I am a Capricorngirl . He is sweet , dress well and eeverything about him omg ! I am looking forward to seeing my virgo guy again .
Great article. I met my Virgo a couple of months ago. He came on very strong at the beginning and told me it was fate that we met and that he loved me very early on. More recently we are together and then he pulls back for days at a time but when together like nothing is different or has changed. Its maddening at times but I think he is taking time to really think about his feeling and reality is setting in. He tells me that he wants to be with me forever but he still has a few other things he has to work out before that happens. I've not a man like him before and I do see him opening up to me more and more all the time. But then I don't here from him for days!!!
I get this a lot to! I have been with my virgo man for 2 years and he always seems to be assessing me and us everytime something I dont like is said. He just says I will talk to you tomorrow and then nope 3 days later or more he comes back and discusses things. I find I have to be honest cause I lost myself a while back to always suiting his standards. Its gut wrenching with this patients things cause I like to have it over and done with straight away. I am a scorpio and I do love him I even do therapy to try to see things for the better. But always feeling like we go one step forward two steps back! I like consistency and affection but cant get that until I havent seen him for a few days after. He confuses me and makes me feel like I dont matter by actions but says things like I want this to work or he loves me. I guess you could say I am feeling like I need to distance myself again like I have in the past and he hated it but it helped because he admitted he missed everything. As for the dont want to be hurt…. I had been hurt for months but that was never considered and he never apologized for that. I feel into a depression and anxiety and then I was good then as you can guess he comes back to make a mend but now back to ignoring or avoiding me again! I am really done with the head games. Good luck
How did this relationship play out for you? I’m so curious to know because my Virgo guy is the exact same way!
OMG…ALL THIS DISCRIBES WHAT MY HUSBAND WAS. He was all this RIGHT HERE!! THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR SHARING..mY HUBBY PASSED AWAY A MONTH AGO AND I'M MISSING HIM LIKE CRAZY..HE LOVES GETTIN ME TO WATCH YOUTUBE, I GOT SICK OF WATCHING IT..LOL…AND HE ALWAYS WEARS A RUBBER BAND ON HIS WRIST. He was the most humble person, and loved his family. He was also a workaholic! Although he wasn't as romantic as I wanted him to be, he showed it in many other ways..I will always love him..
Hi…I am Lisa, after Reading your post…I just felt compelled to reply. To say I am sorry you loss your Husband, I hope you are well and that grief has only humbled you. I too am widowed and he was my everything! Such a good man…but since he left to be in heaven…Not until nearly 3.5 yrs later started to date again and have never met any man that even came close to my dear Edwin. Some 11 yrs Now later now in 2018 have I ever met such an angelic man such as my husband as I have with my Virgo… Anthony. We meet in Oct 2017 and he is truly a catch.. We had a misunderstanding on Jan 23rd 18′ and I almost lost him..it has stressed me unbelievably! Just on mother’s day he replied to a text as he had blocked me from all contact. He has texted Today(after me saying good morning) Said he’d call today…but that was 8:30am and now it is 8:00pm. I guess what I want to say is.. Did you ever experience any hardship with your husband that you can shed some “light” on to me. I am so afraid that all that I have longed for is disappearing right before my very eyes! It would be easier to email me @ coquiangels4me@gmail.com. I’ll even send my cell I am so desperate for insight!
Lisa 703-347-4443.
Thank You! God Bless and Anthony… too had me watching YouTube videos!!!😇Lol!
I love my Virgo man. Being and Aries I believe deeply we balance eachother
Ive been with a virgo for two years now and he's the one who physically is immaculate, but his room is a total mess lol. he wants me to be perfect like him, but im a leo! funny thing is, im so stubborn and he doesn't like that.:)
Aw! They are quite some talkers! 🙂
I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. <3
I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. <3
I love my virgo man, there's no other man like him.
i met my virgo man few months back and am totally in love with him. he's almost the same as you have described in here. he have never said "I LOVE YOU" but i can see it in his eyes and the way he cares for me. but sometimes i get a cold response from him and i feel as if he's treating the same with me as he used to do with his ex's. is it always with virgo men to disappear at times having no reason for it?
If you meet a Virgo man; Run, Run, Run – Total Waste of Time and 6 Years!
They will Never Claim You or Admit to a Relationship!
I agree! I’ve been with mine for 13 years. It took him 4 years for him to say he loved me. Now we have 2 kids together, a house and a dog, but he still won’t marry me. I’m actually at the point where I don’t want to marry him anymore. In fact, I want to leave him. All those things I thought I could get past, like him never apologizing, him being critical and judgmental toward everyone, and nothing ever being good enough for him, well, the older we got the worse those things got and the harder it got for me to accept. I thought maybe I would feel like he loved me after many years together, and I guess he did, but only to the extent that he knew how. It turned out it never was enough for me. He could never just love me for me. He criticized everything that I loved and he could never join me in any activities simply because I wanted him there. If he wasn’t into it then he wasn’t there. Even if I had no one else. Even if I just wanted his company. Not even just for me. Even when he cooks I’m not allowed in the kitchen. Sometimes I would love to cook with him. But he won’t let me. I used to join him in his interests when he spent the money on them. I always tried my best to include myself in the things he loved. But he could never reciprocate. He has left me feeling alone with every single thing I have ever wanted to do. When we were younger I used to be his biggest cheerleader. But he played the absolute opposite role with me. All he ever did was tell me what a wast of time what I was doing was. Everything I loved and every dream I had he would make sure I knew was a waste of my time and effort and that nothing would ever come of it. Sometimes all I needed from him was a little of what I tried so hard to make sure I gave to him. Of course I know I wasn’t prefect and that there are two sides to every story. But I’m not exaggerating these details. Now, 13 years later, I don’t want to be with him anymore. I want to leave but we have 2 kids together and I’ve been a stay at home mom for 10 years. If you don’t need someone to tell you how awesome you are, then virgo are great in many ways. But they need to feel good about themselves. That and money is their number one priority. They truly need you to make them feel like they are awesome. They emotionally can’t handle it if they don’t have that. But on the flip side, if you need them to put effort into making you feel good, then move on. They probably will try somewhat in the beginning. But it will be very subtle and it won’t last. What a virgo does in the beginning of a relationship is equivalent to what any other man does when he’s been married for about 15 years. After he’s comfortable, there’s no effort in making you feel good at all. But he will still need you to show him how great he is. That will never change.
This describes my Virgo man perfectly. It also gives me some pointers on him. He's taken his own time, he's finally showing his heart and letting me know how he feels. Patience, Patience, Patience – the key to dealing with a Virgo man. He's absolutely worth it ,a solid steady love that makes you feel safe
Q? Should I let him know how I feel about him without coming off too strong?
I don't question your frustration at all. As a Virgo woman over 30, I feel confident that I'm correct, when I say that really, if anybody wants to be happy, and it's with a Virgo they want to be happy ………. They had better check first and make sure that they are Virgo, too. We are Fussbudgets, and we know it , live it, breathe it and singularly, I believe know how to love it in our own Virgo mate.
Hi thank you very much for your sharing. I meet a Virgo and we hang out for about 3 months. Talked about everything and he also asked me so much questions about me. About 2 weeks ago I told him how I have feelings for him and he's now not answering my text or talking to me. I don't know what to do and why? Please help. Thank you
Same exact thing happened to me ! I feel used…sad..betrayed…like a rebound…confused…and now just plain angry…will NEVER date another Virgo Julie
Hi I have been hanging out with this Virgo guy for about 3 months. I know we had something. He also ask me so much questions about me. And when I told him how I feel about him. He's now not answering my text or taking to me. Is he analyzing about his feelings for me and should I just be patience and wait? Thank you
I have a crush on a Virgo guy who is surrounded by girls crushing over him -_- ! He is intelligent and super charming and has an amaazing voice.. As a Taurus, I fell for him the minute I heard him singing .. I have a Virgo moon, so I am a perfectionist detail-oriented neat freak. I usually run positions of power in my university as a student leader I have No fear of public speaking. YET when it comes to initiating a conversation with my crush , my Taurian ego steps in and I retreat fearing humiliation and looking like the other billion chicks drooling over him ! I would love to know how to capture his attention especially that we do not have the same social circle, thus becoming his friend is kinda impossible. We love the same music and same football club. we are both ambitious workaholics and charismatic speakers .. but he doesn't know 🙁
I'm a Virgo guy and have recently had this leo attract me. We have made some interesting eye contact and she is gorgeous. She also has a lot of friends and is not shy. I started following her on twitter but she didn't follow me back. I always say hi to her and we barely see each other. I'm a typical Virgo who likes to stay fly and smell good. Also a bit shy but I feel more confident as I mature. I'm 27 with no baggage and she just turned 21. How do I get her cuz I can't keep her off my mind and know I will hate myself if I try to ignore these feelings and let it blow over
Here's some advice for those who are trying to communicate or get a Virgo guy. First of all we are freaks! We love sex, we love to take control. We are devoted lovers and the first thing we think about is how to satisfy our women in bed! We get more joy from making our girls cum and every session we try to better our performance compared to previous ones since we are perfectionists. Just take it slow when you guys begin in the bedroom. We prefer to go hard all night so to get it right and not quickies. Oh yeah, the times when we seem cold by not calling, texting, communicating is because we need space for ourselves and likes the the mysterious part of the relationship; it keeps things interesting. It's all about trust, we are devoted and will only have eyes for the one that has attracted us. It's true that we are overly critical about everything and it could be a problem if it is not checked. But we are adaptable to change In a relationship cuz we don't like drama and prefer not to argue. Loyalty is one thing u will notice the most with a Virgo, that's y we make such great friends.
this was really good whoever wrote this. I would like a passionate woman. i would also like a woman who i could just relax and hang out with. i'm a virgo guy. virgo guys are pretty sensitive…a little too much sometimes. but if you help a virgo guy to just relax, and take his hand, it'll help you both in relationships. i consider myself a goofy person but all virgos are different.
Virgo guy didn't tell me anything or let me know what wrong. He just stop calling and texting. Does he just stop liking me as a friend now or he's figuring out things on he's own? We used to talk all of the time and hang out. He just disappear without letting me know why!!! Please help
hey wonder. i'm a virgo guy. this virgo guy's probably okay, he might be just trying to figure things out like you said. as a virgo guy i know i would worry a lot about things and it was for a very important reason. i worry about things besides friendships and relationships, like life and people in general. don't rush and force answers out of him. give it more time then make your move whenever you feel the time is right. virgos need space sometimes and they enjoy their privacy.
Hi amwman
Thank u very much. I really hope he will contact me soon. Actually we had a little misunderstanding. But we talked about it. Ever since we talked about 3 months ago. He did told me nothing will and has change what we had. But he just stop talking to me. Is he mad or disappointed with me? Because I was a little harsh on him. Do you think he will forgive me or how long would it take for him to speak to me again? I do text him time to time and asked him if he dislike me as a friend? But he never give me a straight answer? Does this mean he still figuring out on his own? Thank you so much for your help. Do you think it's for me to text him once in a while just to say hi even he doesn't reply? I feel like a fool but I care about him very much!!
hello again. geez, i know how i could be with a girl that i really like. me, a long time ago, when i liked this girl i knew in highschool, i was playing it sooo ice cool (nonchalant). if he really, really likes you and wants to be with you, it'll show. try not to be surprise if it's a little overdue and all of a sudden. because i didn't tell the girl about my feelings for her until like three years later after highschool…now she has a boyfriend, so i have to live with that now.
but anyways, i believe he cares for you enough to say something eventually. my advice is for you to pray on this if it's really serious. have you ever heard of linda goodman or liz greene? you can go to a website http://www.songsdomain.com a good site for understanding sun signs. Check out "angelsouls" too (you can google this).
if you were harsh on him as you said, then yeah, yep give him space. sloppy confrontations aren't a virgo's thing, we hate it. it draws crowds and we don't want negative attention. things like that can hurt feelings. being too controlling could be an issue later down the line also, so be careful. if you are sincerely apologetic, he'll know, and he'll at least be your friend again. sit down and have pleasant casual conversation with him and kindly tell him whats on your mind, he will appreciate it and respect you. hopefully a better self will come out of him then. i'm learning that "love always comes right on time" 🙂 have fun in the meantime… hope you can reach out and ask for help if you really care for this guy.
Hey thanks again. I have done everything I can. I also write him emails to tell him how sorry I am and would like to hear from him. I also pray everyday too for him to contact me. I really don't know what else to do but wait. I am not sure how it will goes. But I believe he's not the type of person would just disappear without saying anything to me. I know him better than that. He does analyzed a lot and I wish I didn't say some stupid thing to him and I have ask him to forgive me many times. But just didn't get any replays from him. But I do believe he will talk to me again. As long as he's my friend again. I will be happy. I just don't want to lose him as a friend.
Thank you again.
you're welcome. 🙂 good luck
just stopping by to give the website, i made a mistake.
it's songdomain.tripod.com/zodiac/
if that doesn't work you can just google songsdomain and that should work.
p.s. if it gives you hope i'm a virgo and i haven't lost a friend, not one…at least not yet haha 😀
just kidding.
forgive yourself okay, it seems like things are going to get much better for you.
God bless you.
Hi. Many thanks. Your kind word are much appreciated. I will check it out. Hopefully it will help me with some answers. May I ask? As a Virgo man, (of course everyone is different) but if you were a good friend with a female and she made a mistake by saying some harsh things. Will you be happy to hear from her and accept her apology some day? I will be looking forward for him to contact me again. But I am just not sure if I should text him once in awhile or just wait till he contact me? How would you feel? Rather not hear from her or maybe once in a while? Many thanks
there was this girl named elouise who i met in college who made me feel like i was sort of a loser and that hurt my feelings to the point that i had to stay away from her. i felt like she just hated me so i stayed away from her. but i love people, so i try to be friends with everybody, that's just how i am. i even try to make friends with people who are my enemies. but anyway, eventually her (elouise) and i learned more about each other and we became the best of friends. and yeah, she apologized to me, and i accepted it. i don't think people mean to be harsh on others. i kinda have this issue with the girl i talked about on my earlier post here, the one i knew in high school. i never told her what was on my mind because of all the emotion pent up inside. now i'm confused and suspicious because i always try to ask her does she see what i see in each other, and i get just the night sky. eh…love, God, and Jesus are my main motivations now haha…i apologized to this woman so many times. now i just wait and wonder, like you. during all this waiting though, i've learned more about myself and my purpose, and that's helping me get closer to my true self, more than ever before. it seems like this guy is special to you, be happy about that because that's a gift. i have a good feeling that things are going to be better for you. in the Bible, it says something about how to "not be anxious…let your request made known to God". excuse me if you're not exactly religious and all that. but yeah, have hope and fight for love if you are a love warrior. follow your heart.
Hi thank you for sharing so much. I guess you are right. I'll need to forgive myself first. I just keep thinking that if I haven't saying anything stupid to him. I will still be hanging out with him. And share our daily stories with each. And yes, he is very special to me. He's a very awesome person. I am just very sad that I lost him right now as a special friend. And I am looking forward for him to forgive me someday. I do believe in religious. Thank you very much. I guess I will need to find my way to forgive myself first and just keep my hope up. I really do believe he will talk to me again and wish nothing has change between what we had with each other. We shared a lot with each other and I told him a lot about myself that I have not share with anyone like this so far with him. Much appreciation!!!
have fun, wonder, and take it one day at a time. 🙂
Hi thank you again!! I have giving lots of thoughts. I just feel that perhaps things have already change. And I guess I am not worth it for him to forgive me after all. Even tho we shared a lot that didn't meant much to him. To be honest, the reason why he stop talking to me because he said he lost his phone. But I know he didn't. Because when I texted him it still works. I guess it's his way of telling me not to bother him yet he didn't tell me why and he just disappeared. Instead of facing the problems, he rans from the problem. I asked him for forgiveness many times. I guess I'm just not worth it of a friendship after all.
I guess it is time for me to stop giving myself hard times by thinking about it. To you, as a Virgo guy, "again. I know everyone is different" but does Virgo guys just ran from the problems or just giving yourself more time to sort things out and analyz things before you face them again? Sorry to bother you again. But I'm so confuse!!!
Thanks
yeah…well he is a virgo…and a guy. sometimes a virgo needs a lot, and i mean a lot a time before even making a decision. at least that's how i can be. i know ,with me, some things can get too personal for other people to understand. so that could be one reason why he's not talking. but i was more wishy washy in the past when it came to communication. maybe he's the same way. but i think the answer is simply LOVE. if you love and care for this person, and that's how you really feel then i'm pretty sure things will have a way of working out. it's probably gonna take some time, or maybe not so much time. i don't know what love means for you or if you've even gone that far with him in the relationship. if you only just like this guy, i think you still would do it with love, right? anyway virgos like to be liked and love to be loved. haha i guess that goes for everybody… if you suspect something, confront him, like you have been, and do this the best way you can. if you know he's playing games with you then don't waste your time with him. i've been that kind a person who's messed around with people…i don't want to be that person anymore, it's not the real me. But love is definitely the answer, it always has. and you definitely know how to love because you're speaking up about your feelings to him and to me. you deserve to be loved. let this be known to him. otherwise don't waste your time and energy with him. you're blessed, we all are. and we're all trying to find that happiness. God's with you. ask him daily for a clear picture and don't beat yourself up. it's not your fault okay, nobody's perfect. have a good one.
Thanks again. I did let him know. I'm a very simple peson. And I am good with straight forward answer or questions. And I also email and texted him to let him know if he do not wish to talk to me he can just let me know. Because I know when he told me he lost his phone isn't the reason why he stop talking to me. Because it won't take him 3 months to replace his phone to contact me again. And I also told him if he's found or with someone he can always let me know as well because if he doesn't feel comfortable talking to me because if he doesn't want whoever is with him right now to get mad. I will be ok with it. Because I care for him so much and he's happiness is the most thing that's important to me.
Even tho we have not been in a closer stage when we hang out, but I know it was a special friendship and I have developed feelings for him. And I know I was special to him too. But if he feels that I am special to him as a very good friend he can also let me know as well. I told him all these. Yet, he still didn't reply anything to me. This is why I started to wonder if I was even worth it as a friend to him. He did told me I am someone who is very special that he doesn't want to lose. Yet, he stop taking to me. That's why I am confuse. He's not the type who plays games. I believe I know him better than that. He's very honest person. Perhaps he's still analyzing on his own things and sorting it out???
If you know one of your very close friend has a feeling for you. Do you run away from her or just let her know you care for her as a very good friend??? He's not giving me any of the answers. And sometimes, I feel that perhaps by disappearing is his way to tell me he's not interested in me more than just a friend. But I would rather be his best friend than not friends at all. I would cherish his friendship more than anything. I do care for him very much. Love? I am not sure yet because love does need to be work for both. But I know I care for him very much. And he's pretty much the 2nd person that I had feelings for. Thank you very much. I used to talk to him everyday. And I really miss him. I'm sorry to bother you again.
yeah it's okay that you want to talk. but yeah i would take it up to God on this one. So speak to Him, God that is.
hey i'm back. umm it's hard to think that i have all of the answers. but i think i can help. i believe, well now i know i have God in me…so here it goes…
read my earlier posts very carefully. you are very anxious. you have to show some patience and be still. this looks like it's becoming an obsession for you. so don't become frantic. and yeah ask God and tell God how you really feel about this virgo guy, and simply about everything. what do you really want from this guy and how soon do you really want it? if you want an answer how long are you willing to wait for it? you know you can't always rush and force things, sometimes you have to be sensitive about these sort of things. slow yourself down, can you do this? things take time and love always comes on time. love is everything, including a friendship and even time itself.
oh and i believe this could be a lesson, in your "patience department". can you trust in God? give God a try. God will make your waiting worth while. some of this probably won't make sense to you so let me know whatever i said confused you. there is something wonderful awaiting you. have fun. find and keep your true self. until then i guess i'll talk to you later? you have my support! (closed lip giggle) 🙂
Thanks for the advice. I am actually doing good. I guess I just can't get pass by why he can't just let me know weather we are still friends or not. I guess it's more of a disappointment from him. Really tho he's more matural than this. I don't think I have obsessions forwards to this whole situation. Just don't understand why that's all. When someone tells you nothing will change between the 2 of us, yet he's not talking to me. Just don't understand this whole part. But I will be fine. Thank you for your advice. If our friendship has already end it. It's his choice and I can't change his mind right? I do believe in god. And perhaps, everything happens for a reason. And I believe I will get to know the reasons one day!!! 🙂
Thank you
uh huh. and thank you. as a virgo i still need to work on myself a little. so thanks.
…perfectionist in me… 😀
hey Wonder, how did it go with the virgo guy now? did he contact u?
Hi Tiffany
No. He haven't contact me yet. I guess he won't. Thank you
Hi Tiffany
May I ask, have you had this experience with a Virgo guy? It's been 4 months he hasn't contact me. I am just not quit sure if he's no longer likes me as a friend or just letting a hint that he's no longer interesting being as a friend even. How can from being such as a close friends and suddenly he just totally ignores me without any reasons. It hurts me a lot.
hi wonder,
my ex was a virgo, i dated 2 guys who are virgo and my current "boyfriend" is a virgo. i, myself am a virgo girl. from my experience, these virgo guys do disappear sometimes out of the blue. one day you both will be talking everyday, and everything seems fine. the next day he wont text you or call you for a few days, and make you wonder what did you do wrong or did something happen. eventually, they will reappear again after a few weeks or months ! the best thing to do is not to wait for them and move on with your life without them. they come back around eventually, and then its up to you if you still want to talk to hiim or not.
Hi Backonherheels, thank you very much for your kindly messages… I do go on with my daily life and moving on as much as I can. Him and I weren't hanging out as bf nor gf's. But we were very close to a point that I tho we were heading on something else, but perhaps it was just me. But he did told me I am someone who is very special to him because we share so much about our daily problems and others. We talked about everything and anything with each other. Hopefully he will contact me again in the future just to let me know what went wrong or just to let me know weather or not we r still friends. I am not sure how I am feeling now or how I will feel when he does contact me again. But I guess everything happens for a reason. Perhaps we were just best buddies and best friends and I was there for him when he needed someone. And be doesn't need me now. I guess no matter what it is. I will have to learn from my own action and experiences. And if he doesn't even talk to me again I will be ok too. I am still doing fine without him being my good friend and I am doing fine without talking to him everyday. 🙂 I want to Thank you again for taking your time to leave me this message. It does help me a lot.
Hi Wonder, loved to read all you story. I was dating a virgo guy for over a year and suddenly he asked for a time and he is gone… Doesn’t talk to me at all. Could you please share if your friend talked to you in this couple of months? Did he apologize for running and saying nothing?
I would love to hear from you because I am felling completely lost after one month without knowing nothing.
Thank you,
V
@amwman
My bf is virgo and I am Aries. We had been dating for 3 months. It's his world. Always something going on…always bad stuff..like a death or something. I have been going crazing dealing with all this mess. so I told him that it's too much. And we never get to spend time together. It's 3 months of tragedy. It's been really hard on me. Anyway it's been 4 days and no word from him. Wonderinf if he will call at some point or just walk away. He seem to have likes me and was good with my son. I have been in prayer and I expect the best. I just don't want to waste my time. I am hoping God tells me soon if this man is his will for my life.
@tiffany ng
Can U give me your Insight on my situation. It's been 6 days and no contact. I have not contacted him and I do not wish tp either. I said how I felt and I feel like it's his choice to made it up to me or break. At least have the decency to say it's over. He is 44, too grown for these childlike behavior. What's your thoughts?
Oh wow!! Crazy!! Happy it worked for u, but I can't imagine myself doing that. I am a very strong believer in Christ…He will take care of my issues. I trust Him. Thanks though!
I am happy for u Emily!! But I do believe in the power up above! Only Christ can change this mans heart. He made man, I am sure he knows how to change their hearts to.
U should stay away from him. No need to get yourself in that mess.
I'm sorry but u need to move on….take the hint…really?
I agree key word he is married
I had it up to here with my virgo man…never in my life I will date another virgo. This is the worse relationship I have ever been into…and trust me I am the very strong Aries woman…patience is against me but I am so proud of how I handled the 4 months I have seen him for. He is the worse!! I do not think these men can ever be happy. Their selfishness is beyond them.
After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, lotto, his email is DRAISEDIONSPELLCASTER@OUTLOOK.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem like wining lottery.
"Sometimes he is frustrating to be with because he can go for a very long time without feeling a need to permanently be with you. It's enough to make you pull your hair out if you are in love with this man. The key to being with him is a lot patience. Something, being a Scorpio, I wish I had more of."
On the other hand, Scorpio woman take time to build faith in the other person and to trust him completely.
Aren't the two stipulations oxymoron in nature?
Virgo's patience and Scorpio's need for time due to their suspicious nature should compliment each other rather than the SWcorpio ending up frustrated, as you say was in your case.
Thank you
My girl is an aries and she drives me nuts some times.
What made you give your Aries lady a chance? I’m currently into an Virgo man 😏
dating a virgo man for a year now. I can feel that he’s genuine and has good intention but it frustrates me that he is not sharing something about his emotions. For some reason, I trust him and im being so patient about this “no-label-no-affirmation dating scene”, which is very unusual for scorpion like me.
Indeed, ’tis true.
I’m a Scorpio lady, engaged to a charming Virgo gentleman. My only wish is that he’d open up more, emotionally. As a Scorpio, I’m an intense lover but I’ve learnt to be patient and let him take the lead. Of course, I trust his every move, every decision and every reason.
He is controlling, he is hot and cold, he calls you his soulmate and then pretends that you don’t exist, he comes and eats from your plate and then goes like he never knew you and flirts around.. it’s too painful..
Interesting to read all of the comments. I am a virgo man and there are thing missing here. First and foremost, the worst thing you can do is try to make us do something. Call it arrogance or whatever, we pretty much know what we are going to do or should do. A BOSS chick is cool, a BOSSY one is good for a goodbye. Somewhere you said or did something that was a violation and that has to be analyzed and rated to see if it is something he can tolerate, if it fixable or, if he lets it slide will it be taken as fuel by you to continue and get worse. Some thins, no matter how seemingly small to you are actually major things to us and my peace is paramount. If my peace of mind is in jeopardy then you can hang it up. yes, we may hit you up later, but you have lost some ground that will need to be made up. We know our value and you should too. Due to our uniqueness( or sensitivity as some would call it), we are going to review you and see where you rank in our future peace and tranquility. the second thing is being overly anxious. It is flattering but also cause for concern. Are you gonna be able to handle stress later on? Just relax. Let him know that you definately like him and are open to starting over and want to be told what happened because you want to NOT do whatever he accuses You of. This is pivotal here–you may not have done anything but you being able to accept the possibility of having been wrong goes miles! We do it all the time in our pursuit to step our own game up. If we can, then certainly you need to be able to. dont let your pride mess you up. Trust and believe, he is feeling the same about his own actions too and if he likes you, will be willing to accept some responsibility for his part. Whether by provoking you or being insensitive to some aspect of your interactions together. We can be difficult to deal with as virgo men, but all we really want is someone to trust and feel appreciated.
@Chris….question – when in the Virgo male’s life does he sit back and analyze his own actions?? His judgements and criticisms are hurtful. My Virgo lashes out because he’s having a bad day at work and I had the unfortunate timing of texting or calling him. He lashes out and all of the things that have been bothering him for a few months come pouring out. I said once to him that he never says anything nice to me. He nodded in agreement. I said that he doesn’t seem to even like me. He only tells me he loves me when we’re fighting and he’s stating why he’s with me. I’ve told him that I never know what subjects are safe to bring up or when it’s safe to contact him. He is an extreme workaholic and I’m lucky if I see him twice a month. When he’s with me, he’s truly with me. You can tell he enjoys spending time with me. But as he walks out the door his mind and comments are about work the next day. He’s a very miserable person and yet, I think he’s happy in his misery. He explained a year ago how when I tell him I miss him….that it’s been weeks since I’ve seen him…. he says that annoys him. I said it’s a term of endearment to tell someone they r missed. He never calls me cute names. He enjoys getting attention and pics but never does for me. Has never bought me a gift. Has cancelled many dates to work and I’m fine with that. I truly am. But I’m not fine when he doesn’t call till an hour after he was supposed to arrive and dinner is ruined. I cook homemade dinners all the time for him. Send him home with food for the week. Spend so much effort and money on all the little things that are from the heart. And he can’t text to just say “hello…. sorry I haven’t been around. Work is crazy. Miss u.” ?????
So anyway Chris, when does the Virgo male remember that the Libra woman he says is special to him has feelings and his venting/emotional outbursts are hurtful?? He acts if he’s never wrong. In fact, he’s literally told me that. Ugh. It’s not easy dealing with the moods and long disappearances.
Hi there Librawoman!
I’m really sorry for what you’re going through.
But reading your email, this Virgo you’re with is “all talk, no action”!! I’m sorry, I take a lot of crap when in relationships when I think it’s not being done consciously, but if I cooked dinner for someone & they didn’t bother to call BEFOREHAND to cancel… I’d lose my head. Then kick them out.
You are consistently teaching this man how to treat you & what he can get away with.
That behaviour is disrespectful, rude, mean, I could go on…
Get some self-respect & get out- now. He can say absolutely anything to you, but that means nothing if he doesn’t follow through.
Being a virgo gay man I can tell you that virgos like to be in a monogamous relationship and will be put off if he sees or senses that you are flirting with others no matter how innocent it is. We wont say it but we will become cold. For us it’s like if you are really in love with me why would you want to be with others. To us PERFECT love is, when you are devoted to each other and dont have eyes or desire for others.
I rather have regular no strings attached sex with different people than be in an open relationship. For us open relationship is an oxymoron. I guess it’s TRUE what they say about virgos search for perfection.
Thank you for this comment Syd, I could not have said it better myself. My son was just born on 9/14 and I love that he is a Virgo.